Managing Self-Doubt

Self-doubt is creeping up every day, especially as everyone compares their life and efforts to each other, which is made worse by social media.

It is all too easy now to look at others lifestyle and judge if your life ‘measures up’.

But the truth is you don’t have to measure up to anyone but the person you choose to be.

Self – doubt is brought on by external situations and what others are possibly thinking or saying. But this is created by yourself. You can never fully know what another is thinking about you, so why do you fill your head with such negative things? They are not even probably thinking about you at all!

Yes, I said it! It might sound harsh, but the reality is, many are just too busy to even think negatively about you. And as for judgements, well this is part and parcel of being human I’m afraid, the key to mastering judgements, is to keep your focus on your goals and let the judgements just roll off into the air past you.

Easier said than done right? I know, but self-doubt can lead to anxiety, imposter syndrome and eventually depression, if you don’t manage this early on.

Here are some tips to help you do just that:

·       Make a list of your achievements in your life and read it on a regular basis. By writing it down, you can see it in front of you and remind yourself of how far you have come and the success that you have built on your own. It’s a great motivation booster.

·       Meditate daily and if you do not meditate, now is the time to start. Meditation is not difficult, but you have to get out of your own way, in order to achieve it. Meditation helps you to shut out all the noise and distractions and connect within to gain the clarity and focus needed to drown out the negative thoughts that lead to self-doubt.

·       Celebrate your success. Every time you have achieved something, celebrate it with either something social or buy yourself a gift. Value the hard work and the focus that you have had to get you to where you are now.

·       Decrease your scrolling on social media. This is where the comparisons may start and therefore, you want to slow this down, so take your focus off social media (unless you are posting for business marketing) and instead focus on what needs to be completed to get you to the next level and move you forward towards your goal.

Self-doubt can be managed, but you have to get pro-active in doing this. You have to factor you in every day of your life and get out of your head and instead believing that you can no matter what.

If self-doubt is something that you struggle with and you need support, please contact me and let’s arrange a free call.